Why is change so dang hard?
I used to believe that I could just snap my fingers and change whatever I wanted. "Mind over matter," I would tell myself. If I wanted something to be different, it could be, I just had to make the decision.
But what the change fairy forgot to tell me is that you have to make the decision to change and then you have to make it again and again and again until it becomes a habit. So why doesn't this always work?
Most of us don't want to change
We say that we do, we can envision a life on the other side of that change. We can picture ourselves richer, thinner, less stressed, more spiritual, etc. But what most of us forget about is the journey that gets us on the other side of the change usually sucks.
I personally think that in between the before and after pictures for weight loss, they need to put 365 pictures of someone running up a mountain.
Between the pictures of the poor student and the rich entrepreneur they need to put 700 pictures of people buried in work, faces covered in fear.
Because between what you currently are and what you want to be is a lot of hard work, reflection, anxiety and pain.
So do you truly want to change? Take the first step of the 300 day journey, be realistic about what is before you and keep your eye on the after picture. It will be worth it.
"We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”- Jim Rohn
